I could not help but notice that for most of my adult life, I have been on the lookout for a sexual partner. I’ve searched for them, and looked through ads in magazines and on internet dating sites. I’ve even gone as far as to meet my future husband through an online dating site. All these things mean that I have probably had to put aside the desire to have sex with someone for a bit.
Now some people might say, “I’m sure you’ve always wanted to have sex with your partner,” and I would say it is the case. But that doesn’t mean that it is never a possibility for most people. In fact, I would argue that for the vast majority of people, they never have to consider the possibility of having sex with someone in order to meet, marry, or become a parent.
In the game, there are four different types of sexual attraction.
The first type is physical attraction. We can call it “pure” attraction if you like, but it’s still not the same as sexual attraction. While there are some people who are attracted to others of the same gender, for the vast majority of people attraction is a two-way street. I know a group of friends that are pretty open about it, but they also have a few people that they have just had sex with.
The second type of sexual attraction is the “we need a sexual partner” type. If you are a guy and you have the same general type of personality as me, you should probably be getting a “we need a sexual partner” message right now. The fact of the matter is that in order for us to be attracted to each other, we first need to have the right amount of attraction.
In general, getting a sexual partner is the only thing that can really improve the sex life of most people. However, I have seen too many couples that are in relationships and have no idea that there is a problem. When I go to a couples’ seminar, I am usually the one who says, “Well, I can’t do that… I am just not that into him. He is the one who is not into me.
Asexuals are a group of people who have sex and no one else, and can usually get the sex they want without needing to get or have a connection to anyone else. They are the “missing link” in the sexual spectrum and often times there are more of them than meets the eye.
Asexuality is, in fact, a relatively new field; there are a couple of different definitions and approaches, but the definition that covers the vast majority of the people who have an asexual identity is one that was originally coined by the American therapist David B. Hand, who in the 1920s described a person who has no sexual or emotional sexual attraction to others.