I’ve been told by many girls that what happens at a physical for a girl is that there is a huge amount of eye contact and that she is talking too loudly. This is usually followed by her throwing a fit and screaming bloody murder. Of course this behavior can be due to a number of reasons, but I believe the real reasons are lack of self-awareness and embarrassment.
This is one of those situations where I think most guys are completely unaware of what it feels like. We have no idea why a girl is afraid of something that seems harmless. It’s like you’re walking down the street and something is chasing you, but you don’t know what it is. When you get hit you feel a little like you are hit by a car. You feel paralyzed, and it doesn’t feel like you are going to run away.
I love this one. That’s because I am a girl. I may not feel like running away, but I do feel like being hit. I didn’t know what was chasing me, but I know that is what I should do right now. A girl is afraid of a certain type of thing that seems harmless. This is something she should be aware of. I guess the next step in our quest for self-awareness will be to learn how to be ashamed of the things that scare us.
I think this is one of those situations where you have to take a step back and be honest with yourself about what you are doing. You can only do so much when you are still alive and can think. You can only do so much when you are able to feel.
You can only do so much at a physical for a girl if you aren’t sure what scares you. I think the next step in our journey for self-awareness is to admit that you aren’t sure and ask yourself, “How would I feel if…
You are probably thinking, “How dare I ask that question when I’m at a physical for a girl?” You say, “I’m at the bar with my best friend and its getting late and I’m all by myself and I’m freaking out but I don’t want it to be me sitting alone in a dark bar by myself, scared, and alone.” That’s a really good excuse if I ever hear one. It really doesn’t help much, but it really helps.
As the best friend I ever had says, it isnt just the question you get asked, it is the question you ask. So it isnt as if you can just ask it casually, you have to ask it as you’re thinking about it. It goes without saying that this is the kind of thing you need to do to fully realize that you’re on autopilot and that you need to stop and check yourself.
The thing about being truly alone is we are so tired of being alone. I have become an expert on being lonely after having a child. My best friends now are the ones I have never had a relationship with. I get so tired of being alone and I feel like I have to do everything I can to make sure that I am not alone. I think this is why I have become more introverted.
Being introverted is a good thing, but it is also a great disservice. Being an introvert is one of those things you can’t do. You can be an extrovert and you are likely to be friends with those of us who are social people. But being an introvert is another thing that can’t be done. We need to realize that when we are in a crowd we are not really alone. In order to really be alone we have to realize that we are not.