I’ve asked and asked friends and family members to ask me the ‘verbally abuse’ questions. I’m always ready with a retort. Then I get called on the carpet. I mean, I don’t want to say the wrong thing and be labeled a troublemaker, but it’s just something you say to show you care.
Thats all well and good, but I am starting to really question the use of the word “troublemaker.” What it might all mean is that you don’t feel you’re being treated as a human being. You might be treated as a jerk. Or, you might be treated as someone who is being made fun of. Or, it might just be normal behavior with other people. Thats just the way life works.
I think the word troublemaker is a word that has come to mean a person who doesnt understand that people arent always nice and there are times when people are being treated unfairly. Maybe thats the way it works in real life. But in the context of gaming, its just as bad. It can be used to describe people who just can’t accept the fact that other people might have different ideas or be nicer than they are.
It’s also used as a catch-all term for people who are abusive about other people just because they dont agree with them. It could be because they have a very strong opinion about something and the other person isnt even listening. Or maybe its just a term they use to label people who arent trying to be rude.
The one thing that I find extremely hard to understand is why people will use “verbal abuse” to describe other people. If you are going to use that term, what you really mean is if you abuse someone verbally, you are in no way acting like a human being. You are just using the words to mean the opposite of what they mean.
The problem here is that we’re not talking about verbal abuse, we’re talking about the words with the intention to hurt. “Saying you don’t like it when you don’t get a good grade is not verbal abuse.” That’s a very different thing from the verbal abuse that I’m talking about “I hate it when you act like this!” “You don’t know how to take care of yourself! You are a bitch!” Those are very different things.
The problem with verbal abuse is people use words to hurt or offend others. As a rule, if you are the one being verbally abused, you have to be sure to talk about the other person’s behavior so you can take corrective action. For instance, if you are the person being verbal abused, you may have to explain yourself. If the verbal abuse is about how you act, you probably shouldn’t be addressing someone’s behavior.
The point is that a lot of people use verbal abuse as a form of self-defense. It is not usually a way to hurt or offend someone else, but rather a way of getting a person to be honest and explain themselves.
It’s not just a bad habit. It’s a bad habit that may not be intentional. Often, people don’t think about the consequences of their verbal abuse. If the verbal abuse is an example of being verbally abusive, they may just stop talking to you. That’s because being verbally abusive is not about hurting or being hurt. It’s about telling someone that they are being verbally abusive.
The problem with being verbally abusive is that its very hard to stop. A certain amount of verbal abuse is a good thing. But if it continues, it is going to continue. Its not like someone is going to just stop verbally abusing you. It may be hard to turn it off, but you can certainly get rid of it.