This is a question that has been asked repeatedly at The Healthy Mama. We get asked this question a lot, but what we really want to get across is that we do a much better job of caring for our children than we do for ourselves. It is a rare person who does not have both a mother and a father, but we do it at the level that we can.
We’re not perfect. We’re not on some other planet where there was a time that our parents lived and we have no memories of them. That being said, most of the time our parents are the only ones we have. Our mother has a sister, and our father has two brothers. They were the closest ones to us the most. We only have our grandparents to talk to, but they are older than us and they were our parents to a much lesser extent.
Now that I’ve mentioned that, I think this is one of those topics that you have to really look at from a different perspective. When you have a parent (or any other caretaker) that is not your parents, you are not going to grow up and be on their level. For one thing, they are going to be older, wiser, and more experienced than you, so they will have a very different perspective on things that you will have a very different perspective on.
I think that is all well and good, but the point is that parents don’t always get it. And when you are a kid, you don’t want to be on their level. You want to be on your level, and you want them to be on their level. But they aren’t, and not only are they not, we are not their parents.
This is a common belief in society that parents are always right. It’s a belief that, in the eyes of the brain, is a form of paternalism. It is a belief that is wrong because as soon as you say “I’m your parent”, the brain wants to take over and decide who is going to be the better parent.
It’s a belief, or a lack of belief, that parents act as the only adult in the family. It is the belief that we are never going to have a say in what happens to us. It is the belief that we are never going to learn anything, and that we will always be a child. We are never grown up enough to choose our own path, we are still little kids. Our path is always going to be set by the adults around us.
Parents, the children, and family members were the first three groups to be affected by the first wave of the Great Recession. Children who grew up in poverty, with parents who had little to no control over them, ended up with more stress and fewer rights than before.
The Great Recession wasn’t just a bad thing for families, it was also a great thing for child-like adults. Our entire society has grown up with the idea that we’re never going to learn anything, and that we will remain children. Parents have always been the first to say, “That’s not going to happen. We’re adults now,” but now that we’re older, we’re older, too.
Many of us grew up with the idea that we could never have a positive attitude, and that we were to be our own worst enemies. We were told that our only virtue was to be perfect, and that was the only way to be happy. This sounds great to me, but when it was you said that you were never going to learn anything, your parents would say, Oh thats fine. You can learn all you need to learn, but you are never going to learn anything.
A lot of people will tell you that as a child, you learn a lot, but as far as people that have been through it, it’s the opposite. You only learn how to be a complete wimp, and not a complete wimp at all. When you were told you were never going to get any better, your parents said, Yes, you can learn all you need to learn, but you are never going to learn anything.