The first thing we do when we set out to make a gift is to think about what we will give to our receiver. What would he or she want? What gifts would they like? This is a great way to find the perfect present for him or her.
In the context of an exchange, we can ask, “What do you want?” This is the “how to” question. The “will you” question is a more general “what will you do?” You can ask it to a friend. You can ask it to a complete stranger. Or, if you’re feeling particularly thoughtful, you can ask it to yourself.
If you are going to ask a friend or complete stranger for something in return, why not ask them to share your gift? You can always ask them to take a picture, or to send you some handwritten note. These are all ways to show your appreciation.
The “will you” question is just a more general version of the “what will you do?” question. If you’ve got something you want to give someone that’s going to make them happy, and you want to do that in a way that’s going to make the gift that much better, then you could ask yourself “What will I do for you?” And then you could give them what they want, without giving them any idea that it would require you to actually do all the work.
But if you don’t want to actually do the work, then you could just ask yourself what you’re going to do for your friend. You could be honest, and say “I’ll give you anything you want.” I know some people say that you shouldn’t ask for anything you don’t want. But you don’t have to ask, you can just do whatever you want.
I don’t think anyone ever says that. And you know why? Because it’s just too much work. It’s like asking someone to help you with an important decision. And then you have to do the work, even if you dont want to.
I once had a friend give me a massage. It was so bad that I was afraid he was going to kill me. I asked him if he was sure he wanted me to do it. He said he didnt want to because he was afraid. I was like that because I was afraid to do it. I was like, “I dont want to do this. I dont want to do this.” It was too much work. I didnt want to do it.
If you want to give someone a massage, you have to ask them to do it. And if you don’t, you’re just inviting their anxiety over. If you want to help someone, you have to ask them to help you. If you don’t, you’re just inviting their anxiety over.
You have to be honest with yourself. If you don’t know how you can help someone, you dont know how to help yourself. So if you want to get someone a massage, you have to be honest with yourself that you dont know how. If you think you know how, you dont know how.
In case you’re wondering what the heck the word “smile” means, it actually means “shoulder.” In other words, if you want to give someone a massage, you have to look them right in the eye and smile. Also, if you want to talk to someone, you have to smile.