That’s exactly the question I’m here to help you with. It’s not one anyone should have to answer. When your partner has hsv 1, it can be a confusing time. Luckily, you have two options.
First, you can tell him its a mistake. I’m sure he’s fine with that, but it does take a lot of courage to admit you have the virus (even if he has already told you). So tell him you are sorry that you had to tell him that, and its not going to happen again. And if he asks you about it again, please just say you were embarrassed that he had it or something.
And the second option is to tell him to take hsv 1. That should make him feel better. But he should just tell you that hes fine with it, and if you ask again he will tell you hes fine and its not something to worry about.
I know this is tough, but a lot of people are terrified of the disease. And a lot of people are afraid of their partners taking it, so you might want to go with option two.
I know. I know. I’ve been that person. I’ve been worried about it for so long. Its been a topic of conversation over Christmas and New Year’s and even before that. But I’ve never been that afraid of it. I knew I had it, my partner had it, but I didn’t know how much it affected him. I just never thought that I was.
The good news is that people arent always wrong. When your partner has hsv1, they are also at high risk for HIV. But the bad news is that your partner can pass it on to you. So you might want to worry about it and think about what you are doing to protect yourself.
There have been suggestions on this thread about testing before you are ready. I say get yourself tested. If you are on the fence, then decide. If you are in a committed relationship and don’t want to risk anything, then don’t. But if you have someone you want to have the rest of your life with, then go for it.
Testing is the most important thing to do. If you have no idea whether your partner has it, then you need to get tested. One of the best ways to do this is to ask your partner. You can make a small pledge to know your partner. I recommend a dollar amount of how much you can pledge, and then make a commitment that it is worth it. The test will tell you if you have hsv1 or not.
Hsv1 is a dangerous blood clotting condition. It can cause serious bleeding and death. If it occurs to you that your partner may not be 100% Hsv1-free, you need to do everything in your power to test for it to make sure it is really you. The best way to do this is to take your partner to the doctor, who will be able to tell you exactly what he or she is.